The Work Buzz's Latest News: Do you know how to deal with a work spouse?

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Do you know how to deal with a work spouse? Posted: 09 Feb 2012 01:18 PM PST The idea of a work spouse is nothing new. Workers have long been working overtime, especially once the recession kicked in. Now many co-workers spend more time together than they do with their own friends and families. Eventually these colleagues begin to resemble platonic significant others rather than cubicle neighbors. In a 2008 survey, CareerBuilder found that 11 percent of workers felt they had a work spouse. A work spouse is a co-worker with whom you share a relationship that resembles a normal marriage, except there's no romance behind it. As another survey by The Captivate Network Office Pulse points out, an office spouse can be of the same-sex or opposite-sex. These are the co-workers they spend the day instant messaging, texting, and emailing – sometimes even on the weekends. What happens when work spouses don't get along so well? Like any relationship, it's bound to have its tough times, and it can spill over into your work life and even your home life. Knowing your boundaries Work spouses are bound to fight because, at the end of the day, they're co-workers. They're going to disagree about the way a project is being handled or the direction the business is going. Or maybe one person affected the other's sale and cost her a commission. Or maybe you heated up salmon for lunch and now the entire lunch room smells like a seafood restaurant, which does not please your work spouse. Whatever the case, you're going to disagree. What matters is that you draw a distinction between disagreeing and fighting, because the latter is rarely acceptable in the workplace. "Work couples may have a special relationship at the office, but that is still separate from how they should behave as employees," says Sharon O’Neill, author of "A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage." "Generally, organizations do not tolerate fighting in the workplace — no yelling, no disrespectful dialogue, etc. Disagreeing at work, when done appropriately, is never a problem." That civility needs to stay the same when you make up. O'Neill advises workers to remember that despite their friendships, they're still co-workers in a company setting. "Work spouses should follow the organizational expectations and treat the 'work spouse' in exactly the same way they would any other co-worker and make that formal apology," O'Neill says. Letting your work spouse affect your real spouse According to the CareerBuilder survey, 20 percent of workers with a work spouse say their actual spouses and significant others get jealous of their work spouses. What's more, the Captivate Network survey found that 22 percent of married people with work spouses keep the relationship a secret from their actual spouse. Obviously the relationship has the potential to cause some problems between you and your actual significant other. But it doesn't have to. You might not want to bring work home with you, but the stress of disagreeing with a work spouse won't necessarily disappear the moment you leave the office. It's fine to talk about your work spouse at home (and not keep the relationship a secret). "Most people in a healthy relationship at home are helped by a spouse who can listen, empathize and maybe add some thoughts to the problem," O'Neill says. "It’s not healthy to compartmentalize both worlds." What matters is that you prioritize your real spouse or significant other and your work spouse. "Most work spouse situations have an impact on one’s real marriage or family life," O'Neill admits. "[To] be upset over a work spouse fight at the office can be quite disturbing to your partner and your marriage. One’s home partner may, rightly so, start questioning how someone else is taking up emotional time and energy. It is much too easy if the marriage is having its problems — which all do — to enjoy the office friend and not put the energy into the home situation. It is too easy to get off track of one’s priorities." No matter if the relationship is with friends, co-workers, spouses or family, apply O'Neill's advice, and make sure all parties feel respected and comfortable with the situation.

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The Work Buzz's Latest News: The ongoing debate over unpaid internships

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The ongoing debate over unpaid internships Posted: 13 Feb 2012 01:46 PM PST Earlier this month, news broke that a former fashion magazine intern was suing the publication she had worked for and its parent company for violating labor laws after she claims she worked a full-time schedule without receiving compensation. Xeudan "Diana" Wang, a 2010 graduate of Ohio State University, alleges she worked up to 55 hours a week during her four-month stint as an unpaid fashion intern at the famed magazine in 2011. While Wang is part of a small handful of unpaid interns who have actually sought legal action to contest the fairness of such internships – a group that includes two past interns at a prominent movie production company who filed a similar suit in September 2011 – the debate her suit raises is a common one. On one hand … In order to comply with the Fair Labor Standards Act, internships need only provide college students with a valuable learning experience, equivalent to that which would be gained in a classroom setting. No pay is required. Many universities and companies also allow unpaid interns to receive school credit in exchange for their work, providing some financial incentive for students who might otherwise pay thousands of dollars to fulfill such credits on campus. This credit-for-work exchange, however, is not required by law. Because many internships do provide students with the valuable learning experiences they're designed to, supporters argue that they're a perfectly acceptable – and legal — practice. "Most people will have one or more unpaid internship in their career; I had several in college. Sometimes, the fact is that you need experience to get experience — internships are the new entry-level job," says Heather Huhman, founder of Come Recommended, a PR firm that focuses on the recruiting industry, and author of the book "Lies, Damned Lies & Internships: The Truth About Getting from Classroom to Cubicle." "While there are many paid internships out there, they often require some level of experience, which you can gain from an unpaid internship." In many industries — including publishing and film production — unpaid internships are practically a rite of passage, one that most students in these fields are familiar with and accepting of. "Unpaid internships are common in media, communications, writing and other creative fields," Huhman says. "This is because people in these fields rely on their experiences, achievements and portfolios far more than a field like engineering or business, where a degree can be enough to get you started." The competitive nature of these fields also means that students are often more than willing to work for free in order to get a leg up. But on the other … Companies in competitive industries are well aware that students will line up to work for them without pay, and – as Wang's lawsuit accuses her former employer of doing – some experts feel that companies take advantage of these young, eager workers. Besides requiring employers to provide students with valuable learning experience, the Fair Labor Standards Act has a number of other guidelines for unpaid internships, including that "the training is for the benefit of the trainees," and "the trainees do not displace regular employees, but work under their close observation." Critics of unpaid internships – as well as Wang's lawyers — allege that employers are using unpaid interns for their own benefit, and in place of regular employees. According to a press release issued by Wang's law firm, Outten & Golden, LLP, the same firm that represents the plaintiffs in the case involving the film producer, "Unpaid interns are becoming the modern-day equivalent of entry-level employees, except that employers are not paying them for the many hours they work. The practice of classifying employees as ‘interns’ to avoid paying wages runs afoul of federal and state wage and hour laws … By failing to treat interns as employees, [the company] has denied them important rights that the wage and hour laws protect, including the right to unemployment insurance, workers’ compensation insurance, social security contributions, and, crucially, the right to earn a fair day’s wage for a fair day’s work.” Wang’s case is just the latest chapter in the ongoing debate over unpaid internships. In April 2010, for example, Nancy J. Leppink, deputy wage and hour administrator at the U.S. Department of Labor, announced plans to crack down on unpaid internships, telling the New York Times, "If you're a for-profit employer or you want to pursue an internship with a for-profit employer, there aren't going to be many circumstances where you can have an internship and not be paid and still be in compliance with the law." The fine bottom line There is a certain amount of thankless work and menial labor that goes along with accepting an internship. Such is the nature of the beast. But it should still be a learning experience for the student. So how do you draw the line between everyday grunt work and exploitation? Huhman offers the following conclusion: "Pay doesn't always correlate with the experience you will receive; focus on the learning experience you're getting from an internship to determine what the real cost/benefit balance is. If you're working hard, but learning a lot, making great connections, and adding achievements to your résumé, I would argue that you're getting a great experience. On the other hand, if you're working hard for your employer and learning nothing but how to enter data into a spreadsheet or work an expensive coffee maker, you're being taken advantage of. Think about what you're taking away from the internship (besides money)." What do you think? Are unpaid internships fair?

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4 Goals Your Cover Letter Introduction Should Accomplish

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• 4 Goals Your Cover Letter Introduction Should Accomplish
• Optimizing Your Resume With Keywords
• The Key Qualities of an Emerging Leader
• Are Professional Resume Writers Worth the Investment?
• Have You Tracked Your Online ID Lately?

4 Goals Your Cover Letter Introduction Should Accomplish Posted: 12 Feb 2012 10:30 PM PST It's no secret every element of your cover letter is important from top to bottom. But the introduction may be just a bit more significant. To get this useful advice and many other helpful career resources, visit us now at CAREEREALISM.com.

Optimizing Your Resume With Keywords Posted: 12 Feb 2012 10:00 PM PST Hiring managers eyes are quickly scanning over your resume for keywords that align with their view of the position. Does your resume stand out? To get this useful advice and many other helpful career resources, visit us now at CAREEREALISM.com.

The Key Qualities of an Emerging Leader Posted: 12 Feb 2012 09:30 PM PST Through the process of coaching all levels of leaders, I've discovered some consistencies in qualities of high potential and emerging talent. To get this useful advice and many other helpful career resources, visit us now at CAREEREALISM.com.

Are Professional Resume Writers Worth the Investment? Posted: 12 Feb 2012 09:00 PM PST As a Certified Professional Resume Writer, I am often approached by qualified job seekers frustrated by weeks and often months of unemployment. To get this useful advice and many other helpful career resources, visit us now at CAREEREALISM.com.

Have You Tracked Your Online ID Lately? Posted: 12 Feb 2012 08:30 PM PST Tracking your online ID is vital in preserving your personal brand while you search for a job, prepare for an interview or change careers To get this useful advice and many other helpful career resources, visit us now at CAREEREALISM.com.

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